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Tiiiime Is On Your Side, Yes It Is December 19, 2014

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Card2These days, I don’t think that most of us feel great about time. Time is always doing the wrong thing; it’s moving too fast or it’s going too slow. We rarely feel like “time is on our side”. The pressure to: “be on time”, “make up time” and “find time” is a relentless “TICK-TOCK” in our over-booked lives. But for all the pressure the passage of time puts on us, I would like to argue that at this time of year, when the calendar is about to slide from December into January, time becomes a quiet gift. Because the passage of a year is not just quantitatively different than the passage of an hour, or a day, a week, or a month – it is qualitatively different as well.

When we pass into a new year – we celebrate that transition with parties and silly hats, giant dropping disco balls, fireworks and champagne. “Out with the old and in with the new” – we make resolutions and promises to make dramatic changes in our lives, and we welcome the opportunity to begin again with a fresh new slate.

“Happy New Year!!!”

And while celebrating is great, I would like to invite you to add a little quiet reflection to your annual celebration this year. Find a moment in these next couple of weeks to sit quietly, and review the year we are leaving behind. Take stock of the challenges that you faced along these last twelve months and the wins and triumphs that brought you through them. Spend a little time thinking about something you learned, someone who positively impacted you, a moment you are proud of and a beautiful experience that touched you. Savor and reflect – a year is a long time, a lot has happened and you have grown – spend some time acknowledging it.

Then when you are ready to start looking ahead at the new year on our doorstep, try to resist the pressure to make New Year’s resolutions. Instead slow it down a bit and delve a little deeper. Create a map for yourself that offers more substance and possibility for real success. It’s not as simple as making resolutions, it’s really about creating a map of goals, plans, intentions and then: working it, refining it, reworking it, retooling it and moving forward. So spend some time reflecting on where you’ve been and where you are now and then take the time to thoughtfully look forward to where you would like to be. If it feels right, you might consider hiring a coach to help you along your way; someone with whom you can explore your next best steps, what strengths you bring to the process and how to harness them, someone who will help you heighten your self-awareness, challenge you to think deeply and then hold you accountable for the plans you make.

We don’t need a change in the calendar year to make changes in our lives, but this time we can use the passage of time to our advantage. It is a natural touch point – a time to reflect, a time to dream and a time plan. This time, time IS on your side. Make the best of it.

Wishing you Happy Holidays and A Great New Year!

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Making the Space November 9, 2013

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G4Currently, the majority of my waking hours have been spent trying to gear-up for one big event that will be happening a week from now. And though my days are full with the full spectrum of “life stuff” – the majority of my time these last few weeks have been focused on tasks and projects for the Natural Living Expo where I will be both an exhibitor and a presenter next week. I am excited that it is close at hand and that soon I will be out of preparation mode and into doing mode. I am almost done with just a few little loose ends to tie up. Yay!

I won’t drag you through the list of projects I have been consumed with – but let it suffice to say that there was a smattering of everything; designing, writing, planning, coordinating, budgeting, practicing, scheduling, etc. etc. etc. And while the rest of my life has been equally busy, with home and work, this one effort has had most of my attention.

So yesterday, when I realized that I had completely forgotten to write a blog post for Thursday, I was not really that surprised, though I was a bit sad about it. And then when, yesterday became enwrapped with other activities, I missed that post, too. So, today, despite the fact that I am feeling exhausted, and not like I have a whole lot to say, I wanted to make sure that I found at least a small window of time to write. After all, I think that’s really what the whole NaBloPoMo and NaNoWriMo thing is all about, isn’t it? At its most fundamental level it is about making the time in your life, to write (either a blog – in the former case, or a novel – in the latter).

I don’t know what motivates all writers – but I would hazard a guess that for most of us, this is more than just a simple desire, it is a need. If I don’t write, it feels like something is missing for me. Though lately, I have found many forums in which to exercise this need, my blog had become neglected, and the challenge that NaBloPoMo presented offered me an excuse to re-invigorate it. And though I feel like, I am just exercising my creaky old bones at this point; I am starting to get the hang of it again.

So much of the time, so many things come down to us simply needing to make the room in our lives for the things we love; the things that make us feel whole, the things that bring us joy, the things that make us – us. I know this lesson, but I still forget at times. While I am enjoying all of the projects I am working on and feel most sincerely fortunate that I am positively rewarded by so much of what I do – it’s important to make room for a diversity of experience at times. Today, I made the space. I hope you too find a moment or several to do something that speaks to your needs and desires as this little respite has for me.

Until tomorrow… (She says, knocking on wood!)

 

The “Evil” Twins September 30, 2011

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Time and money – two things most folks would agree that they would like to have more of in their lives. They are an interesting pair – often you find yourself with not enough time to make the money you would like and not enough money to enjoy your time the way that you want. It’s a “chicken and the egg” scenario – and if you wait for the perfect balance before you make your move – you could be waiting for a very long time.

Fact is – whether it’s not enough time, not enough money or a combination of the two – the “big clock” is still ticking away and your time to take action is now. There’ always a risk that things won’t work out as you would hope they would – but one sure way to make sure that you aren’t going to get what you want is to wait around and do nothing. I’m not suggesting here that you should over-extend yourself financially or work yourself into the ground. What I am suggesting is that you prioritize yourself, what you want and what you need to feel more connected to that which you value and cherish and make the plans needed to move yourself forward. We all have a contribution to make – what do you want to be yours?

If you really think about it – chances are that you “waste” or more delicately put “fritter away” a good amount of your time. Likewise, if you were to really budget yourself you would find that there are likely several places in your life where you can trim back your expenses and free-up a little money. Maybe not a lot, maybe just bit – but sometimes all you need is to start the process rolling and the natural momentum will build and grow.  I know I am talking in generalities here – and that is a conscious decision on my part. How we each fill in the blanks is as different as we are as individuals – so I don’t want to sway your thinking on this in any one particular direction. But take a moment – think about it – what is “the thing” that you are always putting off – that thing or things that you know you need and want in order to live a life more connected to your sense of purpose and passion – and take one small step toward bringing it in to your daily life. You can do it!

 

The Squeeze August 2, 2010

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My schedule as it is, the best time always for me to write my blog, seems to be first thing in the morning. My usual pattern was to wake early, fix my coffee or tea, take my laptop out to the porch and start typing before beginning my other daily activities. However, lately, I have just not been able to swing it. The arrival on my schedule of two early morning appointments and what has become a daily battle with my snooze alarm have prevented me from finding the time in these early morning hours to get to writing. I don’t like it. But I am forever hopeful…

So here I sit, brain still a bit foggy, with few minutes left to devote to this task. As I type, I am busily strategizing a new system, for both waking early and for writing these blogs but nothing concrete has yet risen to the surface. I am pondering the blog of Seth Godin, and his ability to encapsulate a brilliant idea in two-three sentences and wishing I had his gift for streamlining my thoughts. But I will work with what I do have, do the best I can, and hope for a good result.

I do believe in the old adage – “where there’s a will, there’s a way” so I shall push forward in hopes that I can catch up with my own desires and get this piece, which is truly important to me, back up and running. So for now, you get this, just a small sample of my mental meanderings and the ever-present will to share my experience in this small form with you. May you find the time in your day today to do not just those things that you have to do, but those that you want to do, the things that make you feel whole and centered, refreshed and renewed, even if you can only squeeze them in for little bits of time.

 

Witnessing the March of Time March 22, 2010

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In some ways time seems to pass so slowly that it is as if it has stopped all together, and in other ways you feel like it is fast-forwarding in front of your eyes. This weekend I travelled down to Connecticut to celebrate my mother’s 85th birthday. While there, my family got together to take her to a birthday brunch in her honor. And as we sat around the table sipping Bellini’s and enjoying nicely prepared food at a lovely little restaurant I couldn’t stop my mind from considering the passage of time. Other than my mother, the gathering included my siblings, their spouses and one of my nephews (the other eight grandchildren, spread across the Eastern United States were not able to be present for one reason or another.)

It was like so many other gatherings of family in recent years, family dynamics scripting the interplay between characters in an ongoing and predictable story. In other ways I was very aware of all the changes in the players who are the people I have known all my life. Though we all interact with one another in varying though constant ways, we do not get together every day and the space of time fast-forwards the action in chunks rather than giving you the slow progression of the story line. Talks of possible wedding engagements, college graduations and career developments for the younger generation of the family – caused me to once again have to do the reality check that I was part of the middle generation of adults not the young woman visiting from college herself. And the milestone of turning 85 firmly planted my mother in the older generation that I had for a long time resisted seeing her a part of.

What was most notable to me were not the physical changes that we are all going through, but the other less obvious changes in the characters at the table. We are all the same people we have always been and yet we are all different from the people I would have described ten, twenty or thirty years ago. And these changes were not simply about life stages as much as they seemed to be actual personality shifts. As if traits that had been present in a quieter way had shifted position internally and birthed a new participant. It is possible that it is more about the lens through which I now view this group of people – but it is not all about that. We have changed, we have all changed. Some relationships have strengthened and others have grown more distant. The ingredients of our days and focus of our energies have transformed, it is the old familiar group and a new cast all at the same time.

It was another reminder that all is always in a state of flux. You can speculate about the future but you cannot predict it with certitude. Relationships and people will morph and change and you will change along with them. Make the best of all the moments of your life because you never know what the next will bring; it can be a bit unsettling at first, but it is not dull and the possibilities can be very exciting. Happy Birthday Mom…