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This Moment in Time November 29, 2013

SittingIt’s Friday, the day after Thanksgiving. The refrigerator is full, the dining room table has returned to its usual size, the serving pieces are put away. Like many folks, I am lucky to be enjoying a day off, not to participate in the “Black Friday” shopping rush (which I believe is a day of unnecessary chaos and “trumped-up bargains”) but just to take a breather. Yes, yesterday was a holiday, but it was a busy one, filled with cleaning, cooking and general doing, and I really just need a day of rest. Like many solo-preneurs most weekends are still filled with work activities, though I do get the benefit of being able to manage my time in a way that works for me.
Ever since we turned the clocks back, I have been waking earlier than usual, and today was no exception, despite my best efforts to go back to sleep. But that’s okay with me – I do love being up as the day begins in a quiet house where no one is asking me for anything, well, no one except for the cats that is. My older son is up and off to work already at his retail job and the younger is enjoying a little extra time in bed, since he doesn’t work until the afternoon, and my boyfriend is slumbering happily upstairs. It’s all good. Right now I am waiting for my banana bread to finish baking while I enjoy a fresh cup of coffee. And then? Then, I have no idea what I am doing, and for right now I am okay with that.
In general, I am an organizer and a planner, so often, when faced with a bit of free time; I have to actually “work” at just being present and relaxing. My mind typically is a buzz with lists of things that I want and need to get done. But there just seems something antithetical about “planning downtime”, don’t you think so? I know what I don’t care to do today; no shopping, no movies, no cleaning, no organizing, no working. I have a couple of ideas things that I might like to do today; writing my blog, taking a walk, doing some artwork, and enjoying the presence of my loved ones. That’s it – I would just like to let the day lazily unfold before me, and if an opportunity arises for a little spontaneous enjoyment – then I am in.
Right now, it’s about right now. Literally, being in the moment, for me it’s as luxurious as it gets and a personal goal. I am grateful to be a planner but it has its downsides. Sometimes, I miss out on what’s right in front of me in the moment, which is not to say that I am not able to notice the beauty and excellence that are all around us each day and to enjoy and be grateful for it. But I know there is room for improvement. So that’s my plan, what am I doing today? I am being present. That’s it and whatever specifically that means has yet to unfold, and right now, that is more than enough. Hoping your moments meet your needs today.


You’re kidding! Right? December 2, 2012

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Last night in the wee hours of the morning, I decided, as I often do, to rollover from one side to the other; no big deal, no big newsribs here, we all probably do this countless times during the course of a normal night’s sleep.  This time about half way through, I paused on my elbows, feeling the need to stretch my back a bit, and as I was just beginning to push back, I was stopped by a sharp pain in my ribs and an audible “Crack”! I froze for a second and then sunk slowly back down onto the pillow with a very real awareness that I think I had just fractured my rib!!! What!?! Who fractures their rib – while doing a minimal stretch in bed? Me, I think the answer is unfortunately, me! Knowing there wasn’t much to be done, I drifted back off to sleep, only to be awoken each time I moved by a definite pain in my ribs. Ugh! You have got to be kidding…

This morning, as I got up to start my day, I was accompanied by the pain of this new “injury”, coughing, deep breathing and sneezing are all painful. It’s painful to the touch, and my movements feel compromised. Given that it’s a Sunday and I am not inclined to go to the emergency room for what is mostly a frustrating inconvenience and annoyance, I did would anyone does these days – I looked up “caring for a fractured rib” on the internet. In short, you rest, manage the pain and breathe deeply a lot in order to stave off lung issues, and that’s about it. So here I sit in bed, icepack on ribs, laptop on my lap typing away.

I am no doctor, so my diagnosis is of course, questionable. But nonetheless, I do think I am correct. Strange as it may be. And while this is most certainly uncomfortable, the pain is not too bad as long as I don’t cough – but mostly it is a frustrating inconvenience. I had a lot of things on my list of “to-do’s” today and resting wasn’t really one of them. But maybe it is the universe’s way of telling me to slow down. And while the concept that I could injure myself rolling over in bed confounds my mind – I suppose worse things could happen. So as the snow melts outside, and I surround myself with activities to pursue while resting (a bit of an oxymoron) I put it out there that next time – the universe wants me to slow down, I would prefer a non-injury related reminder. For now, I will practice my mindfulness, make the best of it and catch up on my sedentary pursuits.


A Message from the Pasture January 11, 2010

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It’s not all “ups, ups and more ups” she says, stealing a line from a friend. We all know this, but that doesn’t necessarily make it any easier. Life is tough. It is a steady stream of challenges and obstacles and our choice is often to confront them or be bowled over by them. And sometimes, sometimes you’re going to have a day when you just don’t have it in you to push back. Sometimes you just need a break from it all, a little respite, a moment to just be.

It is as important to know when to give it a rest as it is to know that you have to forge onward. So what do you do when you reach this point? Do you allow yourself the much needed down-time or do you stir about all that you “should” be doing? And what feels right for you? Each of us have our own little rituals and what may be relaxing for one person may not be for someone else – but recognizing what works for you is what’s important. And being gentle with yourself is what it’s really about.

The old adage “If you fall off a horse, then pick yourself up, dust yourself off and climb back in the saddle” may be a sage bit of advice on not giving up – just don’t forget the “dusting off” part. What’s the use in finishing the race if you  are too exhausted to enjoy the victory party?