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Perspective, Peace and the New Year January 2, 2014

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PeaceThought I would break my “radio silence” of the last few weeks and do a little posting today. Between the extra activities of the holidays and the need to spend some time doing a little quiet internal reflection, I haven’t really felt like I have had either the time or the inclination to do any writing. That said it also feels strange to let the passing of one year and the beginning of a new one go by without “logging-in” on some level – so here I am.

For me, as for many of us, the end of the year accompanied by the winter weather is a time for drawing inward; both in the physical sense as the cold often prohibits as much time spent outdoors and in a mental sense as I don’t think I could stop myself (even if I cared to try, which I don’t) from reviewing the events of the last year and thinking about where I want the next year to take me. I am “a thinker” so this sort of activity suits me well and has a comfortable familiarity to it. At the same time, this pull to self-reflect often means that any writing that I may be inclined to do is for “personal use only” – so sitting down to write a blog takes a bit more effort than usual right now. And while I am still in the throes of this state of being, deciding upon what I do want to share in this forum is difficult.

So I shall make it simple on myself and share what on New Year’s Eve, I decided is the thing from 2013 that I am most grateful for…

I am grateful to have both of my sons (and often my boyfriend) home here with me and for the peaceful, easy atmosphere that seems to be the general zeitgeist of our household this year. There is just something lovely about having the three people I most adore here with me, each living their own lives while simultaneously connecting with one another. As my boys grow into young men, their respective personalities coming more fully into focus – I find that I couldn’t be more proud of the people that they are becoming. They are totally different from one another, and while their lives, (and everyone else’s), are not without their challenges, they doing as well as they can with what they have before them. Everyone is doing their own thing – working on their own agendas and yet together in a harmonious way. I know that the current circumstances of “where” they are in their lives will be changing soon enough, but for right now, I am just enjoying what it is.

I guess when I think about it, I can’t really ask for anything more. Sure there are specifics that could be running more smoothly, challenges that cause stress present themselves each day but in my mind, the year overall has been a good one.

There are other dimensions, there is more to consider, there always is, but on a fundamental level I am grateful and at peace. As I dance through my mind; viewing, reviewing, assessing, pondering, planning, interpreting and working through all the bits from every perspective – I cannot underestimate the importance of this most fundamental aspect of the overall picture. Until, I am ready for the next installment, I wanted to wish you a Happy New Year and to say that I sincerely hope that the upcoming year brings you much growth, inspiration, passion, joy and peace. –Lisa

 

My Pride November 14, 2013

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IMG_0617Beautiful, handsome young man,
Towering over his mama.
Quietly traveling along his life’s path.
Responsible, wise, intuitive.
Slyly funny, loves to tease,
A closed mouth grin, sideways glance and twinkling eyes.
Sometimes unapproachable; a feral cat,
Interacts on his own terms.
Internally driven, externally achieving,
So bright, so confident, so calm.
Bursting with pride,
Overflowing with love,
Mama’s baby-boy.

 

A Light in the Darkness July 28, 2011

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Thursday morning, the start of a new work day, at least for some of us, because after all in this time of economic nightmares a lot of good, hard-working folks don’t have a job to wake up to no matter what day of the week it is. And while some folks are able to rise and shine – shower and shave, coffee and breakfast and migrate to their workspace with a spring in their step, many others are dragging themselves from their slumber and laboring through their morning rituals to begin the day. These are tough times whether you are employed or not – budgets are tight, prospects are dim and spirits are broken. For many who are lucky enough to have a job, there looms a sense of being trapped in a place that isn’t working for them. There’s a lot of fear out there, fear of losing what little stability you have – and risking letting go of the devil you know.

Some people I know actually love their jobs. Whether working for themselves or for someone else  – they are happy to be where they are. Others are un-employed, and their job is looking for a job – a tedious, exhausting and financially draining experience, particularly now. And a third group are unhappily employed – showing up each day to jobs that they hate – but too afraid and too risk-adverse to look for something different. “You’re lucky to have work” – is the overarching sentiment in this world. To which the answer is “yeah, but…”.

Most of us, spend most of our time at our jobs, the majority of our hours each week spent plying our trade and trying to collect the needed funds to live the rest of our lives. What a shame it is – that so many people would rather be somewhere else. So many hours, days, weeks, months and years spent doing something, being somewhere that you really don’t want to be. And if that were it – the extent of the negative spin on time spent in “the wrong job” – that would be bad enough – but the reality is that all those hours spent being un-satisfied, under-stimulated, under-valued and just unhappy put a drain on the rest of our lives.

So, what do you do? I suppose the best possible option has a two-fold component to it. For one, for now, you keep showing-up and try your hardest to make the best of the work you do have. Take pride in yourself for doing what you have to do – to keep things moving along – even if the situation is less than ideal. But at the same time – try to find something else that is a better fit. Yes, opportunity isn’t exactly glutting the market at the moment – but you have to do what you can to improve your situation. Find the moments that are available to you to explore new positions or create your own. Your life is too precious, and your time too valuable to deny yourself a sense of happiness and satisfaction. Start small, don’t push yourself to a state of exhaustion – but keep the light burning ’cause somewhere out there a better circumstance is waiting for what you can bring to it.