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#ChangetheWorldin2015 December 31, 2014

Change2015Change the World in 2015
Ask yourself…
Are you ready to create positive change in the world?
Are you ready to focus your talents, skills and passions on the dreams and goals of others and not just your own?
Are you ready to do something to make the world and your community a better place?

Then maybe you are ready to Change the World in 2015!
Here’s your mission, if you choose to accept it…
Choose to commit to something, anything of your choosing that will make the world and your community a better place in 2015.
How you choose to contribute positively to the world is your choice to make, maybe you:
o Volunteer some of your time at a local non-profit or other community service program that needs your help.
o Visit a neighbor that is isolated, or call an old friend and tell them how much they mean to you.
o Pledge to donate to an organization that needs your funding assistance.
o Make it a point to genuinely smile at every person you come into contact with today: the clerk at the grocery store, the gas station attendant, toll collector, bus driver, etc.
o Pick something you can and will actually do – “mighty oaks from little acorns grow”…

Invite the people in your circles of contacts to do the same, by sharing this blog, and liking our Facebook page: Change the World in 2015

Use one of the above listed methods to let us know what you are committed to doing and to send us updates, on how you are changing the world.Use the hashtag: #ChangetheWorldin2015

The world needs us to stop thinking, stop talking, stop wishing and start doing.
Let’s get this rolling and Change the World for the Better in 2015!

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world;

indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.
Margaret Mead


Day 1 – Expo in a Nutshell November 16, 2013

ExpoKeeping this brief – becasue I really need to turn in early.
Had a great day at the Natural Living Expo, today!
Wonderful energy,
Great Conversations,
New Connections,
Enthusiastic Response,
Satisfying Appearance,
Supportive Helpers,
I really couldn’t have asked for anything more!
Looking forward to Day 2 and my presentation tomorrow on:
“Exploring Your Life’s Passions”
Happy, Sleepy, Firebird…


A Matter of Simple Perspective April 20, 2010

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Taking an extra “day off” today while my kids are on school vacation and some friends are helping me with some much-needed home repairs. It is a beautiful spring day, a little cool but still damn nice, and I am cozily comfortable in a pair of jeans, a t-shirt and my Merrill’s and though I am not exactly relaxing it is still a lovely day. It has made me think again about how important the lens through which you choose to view your life circumstances can be in determining what your experience is.

Despite the fact that it was not a “work-day” for me, I had a 6:50 am meeting this morning which required me to set my alarm and get up a lot earlier than my body would have liked. And as I have mentioned before, though I am in general a steady, quiet producer in the wee hours of the day that does not really include interacting well with others. Nonetheless, miraculously after a wakeful night’s non-sleep, I really enjoyed the meeting. I felt engaged, social, and surprisingly energized. In my head I was thinking, well this may not be my best time of day but I like this group of folks and I do believe my participation is a good compliment to my coaching business. And so… it was better than “not bad” it was downright good and I enjoyed myself.

 Since it was never in the plan to “spend the day at the beach” I had written a pretty exhaustive list of tasks, chores and errands for myself to accomplish today. So, I wasn’t particularly thrilled when I had to take a couple of hours out of the middle of my day to go to a previously scheduled doctor’s appointment. (Well that’s at least what I thought I was going to do…) As it turned out I made the 40 minute drive to the doctor’s office only to realize I was supposed to see him at a different location today (something I had known at the time I made the appointment and I would have been reminded of if I had put on my glasses when I checked the calendar) but much to my chagrin not only did I waste a good chunk out of the middle of my day – but I had to reschedule my appointment since there was no chance I would have gotten to the other office on time. And though I was feeling frustrated as I drove back home I realized I would be able to make my friends who were helping me, lunch at a reasonable hour and would get more time with “the list” after all.

Is this revolutionary or extraordinary thinking in any way? No, not by a long shot… But nonetheless it is just this kind of stuff, the little stuff that can so easily derail a day. Or if looked at from another perspective, a positive perspective, can be the little building blocks than can make even the most mundane of tasks enjoyable. Just thought I’d pass that along…


Floods, Snakes and Silver Linings April 2, 2010

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Last night I discovered that the Rain Gods had not spared me. After finding yesterday morning that I had no hot water, I came home to find the reason for the failure – a flooded basement! Much to my chagrin, I stood at the bottom of my creaky basement stairs after returning from work and surveyed the 6-8 inches of water that the rain had left behind. After 12 years in this one hundred and fifty year old house, this last deluge was more than it could bear and it finally had succumbed. My plumber was already on the way to take a look at the hot water heater so I called him up and asked him to bring a pump along to clear it out. While he was down there taking a look at the job before him, he found a dead Garter snake who apparently had not chosen wisely when he picked my basement as a refuge from the rain. Ugh! Yet somehow, inconvenient as this all is, I feel mighty fortunate.

My basement is a scary place; dirt floors, spider webs and mold are the order of the day and I avoid going down there as much as I can. My suspicion that it housed other critters, like snakes in addition to the empire of spiders was justified last night and I never intend to use it for much more than a home for the heat sources of the house. But now, with the flood I will be forced to address the clean-up issue that I have been ignoring thus far. Last night I spoke with a friend who is more than capable of doing both the clean-up and the “repair” that the basement so sorely needs – and if we can work out the details it looks like I may soon have the relief of knowing that that dank and creepy space will be cleaner and in better shape than it probably ever has been. My plumber, who will return today to replace the hot water heater, said that he will remove the snake, which eases my mind to know that at least that one will no longer be residing in my home.

Additionally, this morning I went to the gym (fortunate that I am already a member and it is very close by) not to work-out, but to take advantage of the hot showers they provide. It made me realize that I could indeed squeeze time into my morning to get in a brief work-out before starting my day. (I have been pondering the feasibility of this idea for quite a while now since my schedule has become so full of late that I didn’t think it would work.) So indeed, lemonade it is! I may have to spend some money that I would just as soon have used for something else, but I believe I have found a time to work out that will actually work for me and the specter of that old, dirt basement will soon be replaced by some peace of mind in knowing that I no longer live over a dungeon. In a different mindset this could easily be an overwhelming event – but I choose instead to see the silver-lining and am actually excited that this challenge was placed before me. It’s all in where you choose to focus, try it you may be pleasantly surprised…


My Life Just Bopped Me On the Head March 30, 2010

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Ever go through one of those periods of time when you feel the like the Universe is trying to send you a message and it is pulling out all the stops to make sure you are getting it? Well, it’s been one of those weeks for me. From all frontiers I keep being reminded of the same thing over and over again. Oh the message? It’s a simple one really and I have talked about it in this forum before, but here it is: “Focus on the positive and that is what you will draw to you.” It just keeps coming up over and over again, and I can’t ignore it – so here we go…

Though at times I believe we feel stagnated in our lives – we are always growing and changing and evolving. Sometimes, the changes are more evident than others – the growth spurts of our intellectual and emotional selves. Like the child who needs new clothes every couple of months because their bodies are growing at breakneck speeds – I think sometimes we grow in bursts internally as well. This message for me and the resulting effects it is having on my thought processes and my self-concept feels like a momentous shift in my core, I am growing out of my last personal wardrobe and growing into a new one. The funny thing is, this is not a new concept for me, not something I have just recently come to believe or feel or understand but somehow this time it has a swirl of momentum about it that is impossible to ignore.

In actuality, I have had a tough week, and though I won’t list all the mishaps I have had now – I can say my luck in the last week has been on the poor side. And I don’t want to sound like I am spurting Polyanna-esque platitudes over here – but somehow I am managing to look on the bright side amidst the calamity. Oh I have had my moments over here, of feeling pretty discouraged, overwhelmed and frustrated, but my focus has been more on dealing with the obstacles before me and enjoying the abundance that is also a part of every day. Could it be that at the ripe old age of forty-eight,  I have become a “if life gives you lemons than make lemonade” kinda gal?

Awww, enough about me, what about you? As you move forward what sort of life do you want to create for yourself? How do you want to spend your energy, focused on all you don’t have or on all you want to create? Every day, every moment offers us the option of deciding how we want to approach it. We may not always have the energy and resources to be on top of our game but that does not mean we have to be on the bottom. There is a full spectrum of possibility open to us – where we land along that line is largely based on how fully we feel ourselves in control of our own destinies and how committed we are to living the lives and being the people who we want to be. There is no harm in trying, rose-colored glasses are not blinders and correcting your prescription is as easy as putting them on for a try. Go ahead, you can borrow mine.


Got Armor? March 9, 2010

There is a concept that we work with a lot in coaching which revolves around our “Inner Critic” or “Gremlins”. Intuitively we all know what that means. They are those voices inside our heads which are quick to chime in with their negative criticisms and self-defeating rants. None of us seem to be immune from their punishing voice, no matter how self-aware we may be. At times they are an active tribunal of punishing judges who deliver their harsh verdicts without ever giving us a chance at a fair trial and sometimes if you want to move forward you simply have to confront them.

The first step is recognizing the sound of their voice. At times it can be difficult to tease out the sound of your critic amongst the myriad of thoughts we may be having as they are masters of disguise, but it is possible. It requires a training of your inner ear to listen not just for the sound of our harshest critics but to the messages that they are spewing. If there is someone in there telling you “you can’t do it” no matter what “it” may be – likely we are on the trail of one of the little troublemakers. Adjusting your thought process to be aware of their presence is the key to vanquishing the little varmints.

How you choose to work with them is a whole other step entirely. You may use some creative visualization exercise to toss them away, or send them to bed. You may develop an inner armor to shield yourself from their negative blows. Or simply develop counter messages which you use to overpower the negative ones that they are tossing at you. Given the abstract nature of the entire conceptualization the only bounds here are those of your imagination. In my imagination the gremlins often take on the look of those “cold germs” in the pharmaceutical ads who meet their end when the subject takes whatever medication is being hawked in the advertisement. Whatever works for you, there are no limits.

The amazing thing is – that a simple mental exercise can have a pretty profound effect. Changing “the voices in your head” from those of a harsh personal critic to a supportive champion has a real impact. After all, even for those of us who are strongly impacted by those around us, we spend the most time listening to ourselves. So treat yourself with a little kindness, champion your own self and work toward recognizing and transforming the enemy within, you deserve it.