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Happy Giant November 30, 2013

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Meadow and MountainsWell it’s the last day of NaBloPoMo (National Blog Posting Month) and this is my final blog for this year’s participation. It looks like, I have managed to post eighteen out of a possible thirty, and I am feeling pretty good about that. When I first learned about NaBloPoMo on the afternoon of November 1st, I couldn’t help but thinking that this little “incentive” couldn’t have come at a worse time for me. The first couple of weeks of this month, (along with the last several months) of my life had been dominated by my participation in an Expo, the size of which surpassed anything that I had previously been a part of. And while one might wonder what exactly could have been so labor intensive about it, I can tell you that it piled A LOT of extra projects on my plate.

As part of my participation I had set a number of goals for myself, including but not limited to creating a number of new print materials, writing three eBooks, planning and marketing four new coaching groups andwriting a one hour presentation among a number of less intensive tasks. So taking on NaBloPoMo in the last couple of weeks of this push, seemed like a crazy idea that was destined for failure. But at the same time, I think I was in hyper-drive mode and I have thought a lot over the last several months about how I had lost my blog amongst my other writing projects in the last year and that simply was not sitting well. So while, the temptation was to say, “I can’t do it, the timing is just wrong”, I also knew that there are always “valid” reasons why “now isn’t a good time” for so many things that are more; wants than needs, and so, I began.

Participating in this “event” was really important for me.
• For one, I have re-learned what I already know, that if we wait for the path to be clear before we move forward on doing something we want, we can wait forever. I knew this already, and while I resist it in some corners of my life, I had let it take hold where my blog was concerned.
• I also realized that my “blog voice” is different from my other “writing voices”, and after a period of relative disuse it had grown hoarse. It took me longer than usual to find the place of flow from which I was used to writing my blogs in the past. My early efforts this past month felt more like “journal entries” than posts, but the more I kept at it the more it came back into focus.
• I knew already how much I loved to write, but lately my writing had taken a different direction. As a regular contributing expert on divorce for a few online publications, I forgot what it was like to have a more “free-choice” writing opportunity. While my other writing is still gratifying for me, and I look forward to being published in the spring in a compilation book about divorce, I do love just sitting down and writing about whatever it is I want to address as well.
• And lastly, I learned that I can get water from a stone. That there exists inside me, and likely within each of us, that ability to be true to those things that we value and that this connection will not disappoint when we want to tap into it again.

So thank-you to whoever came up with this idea in the first place. I am glad you awakened my sleeping giant. I hope to roam this fertile countryside for a while now, so I expect that you will hear again from me soon as November rolls into December. Thank-you to those of you who have been kind enough to read what I have written, to have liked, commented or followed me during the last month and who have helped to make me feel encouraged along the way. I needed that, and I am grateful for it. Maybe I will bump into you over the next rise as you too, traverse the possibilities. 

 

This Moment in Time November 29, 2013

SittingIt’s Friday, the day after Thanksgiving. The refrigerator is full, the dining room table has returned to its usual size, the serving pieces are put away. Like many folks, I am lucky to be enjoying a day off, not to participate in the “Black Friday” shopping rush (which I believe is a day of unnecessary chaos and “trumped-up bargains”) but just to take a breather. Yes, yesterday was a holiday, but it was a busy one, filled with cleaning, cooking and general doing, and I really just need a day of rest. Like many solo-preneurs most weekends are still filled with work activities, though I do get the benefit of being able to manage my time in a way that works for me.
Ever since we turned the clocks back, I have been waking earlier than usual, and today was no exception, despite my best efforts to go back to sleep. But that’s okay with me – I do love being up as the day begins in a quiet house where no one is asking me for anything, well, no one except for the cats that is. My older son is up and off to work already at his retail job and the younger is enjoying a little extra time in bed, since he doesn’t work until the afternoon, and my boyfriend is slumbering happily upstairs. It’s all good. Right now I am waiting for my banana bread to finish baking while I enjoy a fresh cup of coffee. And then? Then, I have no idea what I am doing, and for right now I am okay with that.
In general, I am an organizer and a planner, so often, when faced with a bit of free time; I have to actually “work” at just being present and relaxing. My mind typically is a buzz with lists of things that I want and need to get done. But there just seems something antithetical about “planning downtime”, don’t you think so? I know what I don’t care to do today; no shopping, no movies, no cleaning, no organizing, no working. I have a couple of ideas things that I might like to do today; writing my blog, taking a walk, doing some artwork, and enjoying the presence of my loved ones. That’s it – I would just like to let the day lazily unfold before me, and if an opportunity arises for a little spontaneous enjoyment – then I am in.
Right now, it’s about right now. Literally, being in the moment, for me it’s as luxurious as it gets and a personal goal. I am grateful to be a planner but it has its downsides. Sometimes, I miss out on what’s right in front of me in the moment, which is not to say that I am not able to notice the beauty and excellence that are all around us each day and to enjoy and be grateful for it. But I know there is room for improvement. So that’s my plan, what am I doing today? I am being present. That’s it and whatever specifically that means has yet to unfold, and right now, that is more than enough. Hoping your moments meet your needs today.

 

Harvesting the Holiday Heart November 27, 2013

TurkeyTomorrow is Thanksgiving, and all across the country families and friends will gather together to enjoy a traditional meal accented with turkey and pie and various other special foods. And at some point likely they will “give thanks”, because in many ways that is what this holiday is all really about. While doing so – likely people will also reflect on those who are not with them this year, and those who are alone on this holiday or are for one reason or another less fortunate to be able to celebrate in the same way. On the news; you hear stories about celebrity athletes bringing pies to local food pantries, church and community collections to gather a variety of items to distribute to those who otherwise would not have a turkey this year. This time of year, when the temperatures drop, and while men and women are deployed overseas in the services, and the general populace is thinking not only about shopping and cooking and decorating – one can predict an up-tick in the expressions of gratitude and generosity. It’s a good thing.

And while I don’t want to throw a damper on what is truly a great expression of our humanity – I can’t help but find myself thinking about where this spirit goes during the rest of the year. After all, those who are in need and alone and the many gifts for which we are grateful on the holidays don’t magically appear on Thanksgiving and disappear on the first day of the New Year.

Back in 2001, after the tragedies of September 11th, for a while, it seemed that people were kinder to one another. There was a sense of a community drawn together in mourning and grief that in the horror of the moment were able to look at one another through a different lens than they had before – a lens of interconnectedness. There was a sense of shared humanity, of gratitude for life itself and of deep caring not just for those in our immediate lives but for the broader community. Is life such that we are only drawn together in this way in moments of great tragedy and of shared tradition?

My wish this holiday season is that we connect with this part of ourselves in a more enduring and constant way, that we appreciate all of the little blessings that we have in our lives and that we look upon one another through our hearts and not just our minds. So do your holiday thing; give thanks, donate, volunteer, remember and cherish – be fully grateful for the breath you draw today. And then tomorrow, when you are back on the highway during rush hour, when you are standing in line at the department store and impatiently rushing to finish your errands – use those eyes to see the elderly person who is driving slowly in front of you, the economically stretched parent who is paying for his child’s clothes with a pile of coupons and the co-worker who stands by your desk to chat too long each morning. If you can do it for a day, or a season, you can do it every day. Peace, happiness and gratitude to you and yours this Thanksgiving.

 

In Every Season November 24, 2013

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PerspectiveWe woke this morning to a light dusting of snow. Which was perfect, since the only part I can remember from my very active dreaming last night was that, I awoke in my dream, to the first dusting of snow. I was glad that I hadn’t had a dream about the first blizzard of the season as I was not ready for that just yet! Beyond the snow the temperatures here never rose above twenty-four degrees Fahrenheit on my outdoor thermometer and the wind was ferocious. And… there was something thrilling about all of it.
When I was little, winter was my favorite season. I enjoyed the crispness in the air, and the snow, the lovely, quiet, magical snow. I wasn’t a skier, though when I grew older I did find I enjoyed cross-country skiing. Nor, have I ever liked the layers of extra clothing or the early disappearance of the sun from the afternoon sky – and yet winter was my favorite time of year. Now as I am older, with a sometimes questionable back and the responsibility of; if not doing all of the snow removal, at least the coordination of said removal, along with the cost of the winter heating bills and that has taken a bit of the bloom off of the winter rose.
At this point in my life, I guess all of the seasons are my favorites. They each have their upsides and their downsides – but I guess the thing that stands out to me most – is how beautiful each season can be. Trees are lovely for instance; in early bud, in full bloom, in autumn glory and in their slender delicacy without leaves. There is something equally lovely about the first warm breezes of spring, the hot sun in summer, the crisp coolness of fall and the brisk bracing blast of winter cold.
Spring –Renewal,
Summer – Passionate Life,
Autumn – Harvest and Home,
Winter – Reflection.
It’s all good. I may be singing a different tune a few weeks from now, but today, I am grateful for the first day of “real” cold and wintry flakes. I guess reflecting on the seasons is a lot like reflecting on life itself, there are ups and downs, good bits and bad – but viewed from a certain perspective all parts have their place and the frozen days of our lives make the warm breezes all the more welcome.

 

Day 1 – Expo in a Nutshell November 16, 2013

ExpoKeeping this brief – becasue I really need to turn in early.
Had a great day at the Natural Living Expo, today!
Wonderful energy,
Great Conversations,
New Connections,
Enthusiastic Response,
Satisfying Appearance,
Supportive Helpers,
I really couldn’t have asked for anything more!
Looking forward to Day 2 and my presentation tomorrow on:
“Exploring Your Life’s Passions”
Happy, Sleepy, Firebird…

 

It’s Go Time November 15, 2013

NaturalLivingExpoBannerI am feeling the need, once more to be economical with my words this evening. It has been a very long day at the end of a long week, at the end of several months of preparation for a weekend-long event which begins bright and early tomorrow. I can’t remember the last time my life has been so consumed by a single event other than my wedding; except without the seating plan and yummy hors d’oeuvres. It has been quite a process, many components to consider, plan and produce and I am very excited that we are finally here.

I am not trying to be intentionally cryptic here – the event in question is the Natural Living Expo and I will have both an exhibitor booth and be leading a workshop on “Exploring Your Life’s Passions”. The Expo is the largest of its type in New England. There are over 225 exhibitors, 90 workshops (most of them free) some wonderful keynote speakers and a lot of positive energy. In the last few months in preparation for the Expo, I have had to learn new software, published three EBooks on my website, developed and laid-out new promotional materials and gift items, written a talk, coordinated helpers, shopped, folded, paid for countless items and many other jobs but I will spare you the list. All of this has happened in addition to my regular article writing commitments, my individual and group coaching and everything else that I do as a solo-entrepreneur. Oh yeah, and then there’s that funny thing called – personal time!

While the jury is still out about the “success” of my efforts, I have to say that I am ready to “call it”, right now. This has been a really great experience for me. I set myself many goals along the way and I have achieved all of them – no matter what the outcome, I feel good about the work I have put in and the things I have learned along the way. Sure, it would be nice – hell, it would be great to recoup all of the money I have put into this and then some, but no matter what, I am going to say that this was “a win”.

So think a good thought for me over the next couple of days. I will take all of the positive vibes I can get. And I will say that it is possible that my blog presence may have to take a slight break, but I will try to fulfill my commitment to myself for NaBloPoMo. And if I decide to cut myself some slack – I will likely tell you all about it when I am done. Peace Out…

 

My Pride November 14, 2013

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IMG_0617Beautiful, handsome young man,
Towering over his mama.
Quietly traveling along his life’s path.
Responsible, wise, intuitive.
Slyly funny, loves to tease,
A closed mouth grin, sideways glance and twinkling eyes.
Sometimes unapproachable; a feral cat,
Interacts on his own terms.
Internally driven, externally achieving,
So bright, so confident, so calm.
Bursting with pride,
Overflowing with love,
Mama’s baby-boy.

 

Here – now… November 12, 2013

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MoonI sit here this evening, listening to old music on YouTube that I haven’t heard in a long, long time (Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young – CSN.) My mind is slowly rewinding the thoughts, conversations and events of my day searching for a subject for today’s blog entry and I can’t help but notice this quiet happiness that has come over me. It’s not like today was particularly notable in any way, I didn’t win the lottery, wasn’t offered a book deal, my son didn’t get inducted into the National Honor Society and I didn’t have a call from a long lost friend. And yet, I feel wistfully at peace.

In reality, the day started off a little shaky when I overslept – after having had a rough night’s sleep due to a being woken up a couple of times by incessant coughing from a new cold that I am trying to overcome. I missed my morning walk with my friend, because we both overslept and by the time I did get up – I only had about forty minutes to get ready for my first client. My day was sprinkled with a decent smattering of low-level tasks, as I tie-up the final loose ends for this week’s expo. But I also had a couple of inspiring coaching sessions with my wonderful clients. I had time to work on a few substantial projects too; practicing my presentation for this weekend, developing the outline for next week’s writer’s group, reading a couple of great articles. This was the fabric of my day complete with many cups of hot water with honey and lemon, the wailings of my old, deaf cat who wants food every time she sees me and several phone contacts with friends.

It was a full, full day and it left me feeling lucky. I had a chance to work at a career in which I feel a great sense of commitment and satisfaction. I ate well. My sons were both in good moods and affectionate and interactive (which as you may know is not “a given” for teenagers). I got a lot done and feel good about the progress I made on my various projects. And though it was way too cold for me outside today, I did enjoy watching the leaves as they rustled down my driveway.

While at first, I thought this entry was going to be a more in depth dive into some of the topics of the day; self-care, confidence, passion, and creativity – it actually seemed to want to pull in another direction. The sense of gratitude I was feeling just did not want to be set-aside – so I am giving it my respect. We shall see where tomorrow will go – for now – it is about a mindful acceptance of the present state. Thank-you for sharing it with me.

 

Short Form November 11, 2013

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short formSleepy eyes strain to see the type-written words despite the glasses.
A hungry tummy growls for nourishment.
Tired brain, longs for the “go-ahead” to stop working for the day.
A feeling of calm, quiet satisfaction for a full day; creativity stirred, intellect stimulated, connections made, ideas made real.
Playing with new forms that require a brevity that doesn’t come naturally.
A promise kept.

It’s all good.
Good day…
Good night.

 

Making the Space November 9, 2013

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G4Currently, the majority of my waking hours have been spent trying to gear-up for one big event that will be happening a week from now. And though my days are full with the full spectrum of “life stuff” – the majority of my time these last few weeks have been focused on tasks and projects for the Natural Living Expo where I will be both an exhibitor and a presenter next week. I am excited that it is close at hand and that soon I will be out of preparation mode and into doing mode. I am almost done with just a few little loose ends to tie up. Yay!

I won’t drag you through the list of projects I have been consumed with – but let it suffice to say that there was a smattering of everything; designing, writing, planning, coordinating, budgeting, practicing, scheduling, etc. etc. etc. And while the rest of my life has been equally busy, with home and work, this one effort has had most of my attention.

So yesterday, when I realized that I had completely forgotten to write a blog post for Thursday, I was not really that surprised, though I was a bit sad about it. And then when, yesterday became enwrapped with other activities, I missed that post, too. So, today, despite the fact that I am feeling exhausted, and not like I have a whole lot to say, I wanted to make sure that I found at least a small window of time to write. After all, I think that’s really what the whole NaBloPoMo and NaNoWriMo thing is all about, isn’t it? At its most fundamental level it is about making the time in your life, to write (either a blog – in the former case, or a novel – in the latter).

I don’t know what motivates all writers – but I would hazard a guess that for most of us, this is more than just a simple desire, it is a need. If I don’t write, it feels like something is missing for me. Though lately, I have found many forums in which to exercise this need, my blog had become neglected, and the challenge that NaBloPoMo presented offered me an excuse to re-invigorate it. And though I feel like, I am just exercising my creaky old bones at this point; I am starting to get the hang of it again.

So much of the time, so many things come down to us simply needing to make the room in our lives for the things we love; the things that make us feel whole, the things that bring us joy, the things that make us – us. I know this lesson, but I still forget at times. While I am enjoying all of the projects I am working on and feel most sincerely fortunate that I am positively rewarded by so much of what I do – it’s important to make room for a diversity of experience at times. Today, I made the space. I hope you too find a moment or several to do something that speaks to your needs and desires as this little respite has for me.

Until tomorrow… (She says, knocking on wood!)