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The Power of 8,000 Women December 7, 2012


Yesterday, I attended (along with 8,000 other women, and a couple of men) the 2012 Massachusetts Conference for Women. ttp:// With its attendance breaking previous numbers,  it was the largest women’s conference in the country.  And let me just tell you, 8,000 women in one room is pretty damned impressive. Wow! And these were not just any women, they were every woman! A broad, cross-section of attendees – of many races, ages, professions, socioeconomic classes, etc. – all there to be inspired, to learn and to connect. Very powerful, very, very powerful indeed…

The conference, which went from 7:30 am to 5:00 pm – was organized under this year’s theme of: Imagine: Find Your Purpose, Make a Difference. And of the thousands there many attendees already knew their purpose and were making a difference in their own lives, in their communities and in the world. And with a full day out of the office yesterday, and an evening and day spent catching up and slowly absorbing and incorporating some of the pearls of yesterday’s experience, I am finally ready to decant some of what I walked away with from yesterday.

The keynote speakers were excellent! Charlotte Beers, ( the extremely successful business woman and author who has left her mark on the highly competitive world of advertising – talked about clarity, memorability and persuasion. Her wit and power delivered a presence that was riveting and engaging. Dr. Brene Brown, ( professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, renowned speaker and author of Daring Greatly, who has spent years studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame delivered an address that modeled authenticity and inspiration. Beautiful! Deepak Chopra, M.D. ( physician, author, leader in the realms of mind-body health, spirituality, human empowerment and peace – delivered with the grace of someone who has attained international recognition; a thoughtful keynote about collective transformation, and the age of wisdom. And Arianna Huffington, ( president and editor-in-chief of the Huffington Post Media Group, and prolific author charmed us with her humor and reminded us of the need to take care our selves and to nurture optimism. If only one had spoken – the price of admission would have been worth it, and if I wrote notes faster – I would share with you a pearl from each of them, but alas, I was absorbed in my listening and my notes paid the price.



Beyond the keynotes, the breakouts offered closer access to numerous influential and impressive individuals whose impact and accomplishments touched the lives of others across all strata. And the audience, this little group of 8,000 area women – soaked it all in, laughed, shared, energized, and even shed a tear or two. There was a sense of connection, of commonality – of a collective view for a brighter vision for the future and the beautiful self-awareness that comes when your skills, gifts and talents are humming with invigoration.

I am still soaking it in and enjoying the buzz of watching my inspiration work through my own bones – excited to see the many ways it will manifest. 8,000 women – there is a lot of power there – but the most wonderful part is the awareness of the immensity of power that resides within each of us – to imagine, to create, to enlighten and to inspire. Wow!


Intuitive Confluence May 2, 2012

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Confluence…. That’s a beautiful word, isn’t it? It’s downright mellifluous. But it’s not just the sound that makes it one of my favorite words, it is the meaning as well. Defined by ( as: a flowing together of two or more streams, rivers, or the like,  it can also mean; place of junction, a coming together of people or things, or a crowd or throng. Though for purposes of this entry – the main aspect of the definition that I am focusing on is the: “flowing or coming together” as described in Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary. Because lately, the confluence of ideas, information and experiences flowing into my life has been rather extraordinary. It seems that there are certain lessons I am being taught over and over again from broad array of sources and it would be almost impossible to not notice that all of this information seems to share a similar message. Sure, you could say that my antenna are tuned to hear these particular signals more clearly than I hear the din of other “lessons” coming my way – but honestly that can only be a part of it. Statistically, I imagine it would be improbable that this can all be easily dismissed as coincidence or a “filter effect”. But however you see it, it is the meat of the message that is the point here, really.

“Oh – the message? What’s the message that the Universe is conspiring to make sure that I notice? It’s an oldie but a goodie: FOLLOW YOUR INTUITION!” It’s not a new idea, not even for me – but these days – it seems that no matter where I turn – I hear it again. It’s like I am living in one of those comedy sequences where the protagonist sees the same message, painted on the side of a bus, as the headline in the morning paper, on the billboard when she’s headed to work and on the special menu at her favorite lunch spot. It’s almost comical really. As if the world decided the gentle nudges it has sent my way have clearly been insufficient and now it must rely on a sledgehammer to get the point across. “And no, the irony of the message itself and the way it is coming through to me is not lost.”

I am one of those people who has a very strong intuitive sense. Some would say that I am “psychic”, and that is probably true. Honestly, I believe that intuition is a skill that we all have the capacity for, particularly if we study or practice to sharpen it, it is not dissimilar from any other ability we wish to feed, enhance or gain some mastery in.  Some people just are a little more well-endowed to begin with – and I think I fall into that category.  In my life, I go through periods when I am more or less “in-touch” with or listening to this part of myself. And the simple truth is – the more I follow my gut and use my intuition to make choices and decisions – the greater is my sense of life satisfaction. Sometimes though, I resist, and follow some other chain of logic and reason which my overly active mind has mapped out for me. Though this doesn’t mean I will walk into a disaster, I typically never have that same sense of “rightness” about these choices and will eventually change course to what I “know” I should have done in the first place.

When working with clients – we often look at what they believe in their gut is the right thing to do. And it seems that the majority of the time – most people have at least some sense of the right path for themselves. But sometimes in order to hear what your intuition tells you – you first have to quiet the other voices inside your head – often ruled by anxiety and fear – this group can get pretty loud at times.  Sometimes we just are out of practice, or this way of interacting with the world was never focused on or encouraged. Sorting through the advice we give ourselves can often be a “piece of work” but most of us can get in touch with our own inner wisdom if we tune in often enough, are quiet and still enough to tease out the distractions and are focusing with the right intent. So that’s it for me for today – I would tell you to follow your intuition, too – but you probably already knew that was what I was going to say! As for me, my gut told me that I should write this post – so here it is – now I am off to my next adventure. Peace out…


Shhh, don’t think, just listen… January 11, 2010

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Intuition;  is like any of the other senses. Often referred to as the “sixth sense”it  is just one of the many ways available to us to observe and interact with the world around us. Just as you know you are looking at a horse when one stands in front of you, intuition provides a sense of knowing and understanding that appears to be accessing information that is not readily available to our other senses.
For many of us, our intuition is easily accessed, providing a ready stream of information that feels as real and reliable as the information we get through our other senses of sight, hearing, etc. But for others it is almost completely inactive and unnoticed, unrecognized when it is at work and underutilized as the resource it is. Despite this, I do believe that it is present all the same, it just requires some concerted effort to access. For the folks that are less attuned to their own intuition, I believe that they just need a little extra help in tapping into it – like glasses or a hearing aid for this less tangible sense of intuition.
There is a lot of useful information out there about accessing your intuition, and I will talk more about this topic at a later date (because I believe it to be extremely important in creating a life that resonates with your true self) – but for now, I just want to start with what I believe is the first and most simple step: awareness. In order to hear what your intuition is telling you – you have to make a conscious effort to listen to it. It requires you to quiet your mind for a moment and to go a bit deeper into yourself so that you can “listen” to what it is telling you. You know when people ask you – “What does your gut, tell you?” or “What do you think in your heart-of-hearts?” That’s it. That’s all it is – it is that sense inside yourself of what your REALLY know.
The great thing is – the more you listen to it – the more you realize it has to tell you. So, I’ll be quiet for now – you take a moment to listen to what you are saying to yourself instead…


Go with “The Flow”… January 5, 2010

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Do you know what it’s like to be “in the flow”? It’s that feeling you get when something is just clicking along and you don’t have to think about it or work for it – it’s just happenin’. Those in the arts; musicians, artists, writers, dancers, chefs, etc. experience this feeling (if they are fortunate) when they are creating their work. There are times when I am working on a piece of artwork and the moment just feels right. My mind is alert and awake yet quiet, and my hands are moving over the paper as if compelled by an energy that is moving through me. I am aware of the texture and sensation of the pastels as they glide onto the paper. My voice tells me, “Put some blue here, move the green over there” and I just go with it – without really consciously thinking about what comes next. When I am done, I feel both calm and energized – it is a wonderful experience. Often I find that these are some of my most favorite pieces. Though I can’t always count on having that experience when I do my artwork – I am still grateful when I do.

I think that there are moments in all things when you have the sense that you are doing your best work and it is effortless and smooth and synchronous. I believe people can experience it in other ways as well. I think that a gardener who is slowly and methodically weeding a garden can feel that calm, the experience of being fully present in the moment, engaged and attuned with the simple task at hand. It is acute focus without controlling thought. And though it may have some qualitative differences, I believe it is still a type of “flow”.

In coaching it is called “Dancing in the Moment” – those times when you are working with a client and it feels effortless and inspiring. The “creative juices are flowing” and you are being propelled forward together doing good work, having meaningful insights and connecting on a powerful level. It doesn’t happen every time, but when it does, you know it. The focus is on the client’s agenda in coaching and the purpose is not to advise clients on what you think they should do but rather to assist them in planning their own strategies for moving forward and achieving their goals. The more you are able to be in the moment and to connect with the client, on as many levels as possible, the more likely you are to hit that sense of flow, where both client and coach can do their best work. When I lead with my intuition rather than my intellect I am more likely to move “into flow”.

Let it flow…