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Harvesting the Holiday Heart November 27, 2013

TurkeyTomorrow is Thanksgiving, and all across the country families and friends will gather together to enjoy a traditional meal accented with turkey and pie and various other special foods. And at some point likely they will “give thanks”, because in many ways that is what this holiday is all really about. While doing so – likely people will also reflect on those who are not with them this year, and those who are alone on this holiday or are for one reason or another less fortunate to be able to celebrate in the same way. On the news; you hear stories about celebrity athletes bringing pies to local food pantries, church and community collections to gather a variety of items to distribute to those who otherwise would not have a turkey this year. This time of year, when the temperatures drop, and while men and women are deployed overseas in the services, and the general populace is thinking not only about shopping and cooking and decorating – one can predict an up-tick in the expressions of gratitude and generosity. It’s a good thing.

And while I don’t want to throw a damper on what is truly a great expression of our humanity – I can’t help but find myself thinking about where this spirit goes during the rest of the year. After all, those who are in need and alone and the many gifts for which we are grateful on the holidays don’t magically appear on Thanksgiving and disappear on the first day of the New Year.

Back in 2001, after the tragedies of September 11th, for a while, it seemed that people were kinder to one another. There was a sense of a community drawn together in mourning and grief that in the horror of the moment were able to look at one another through a different lens than they had before – a lens of interconnectedness. There was a sense of shared humanity, of gratitude for life itself and of deep caring not just for those in our immediate lives but for the broader community. Is life such that we are only drawn together in this way in moments of great tragedy and of shared tradition?

My wish this holiday season is that we connect with this part of ourselves in a more enduring and constant way, that we appreciate all of the little blessings that we have in our lives and that we look upon one another through our hearts and not just our minds. So do your holiday thing; give thanks, donate, volunteer, remember and cherish – be fully grateful for the breath you draw today. And then tomorrow, when you are back on the highway during rush hour, when you are standing in line at the department store and impatiently rushing to finish your errands – use those eyes to see the elderly person who is driving slowly in front of you, the economically stretched parent who is paying for his child’s clothes with a pile of coupons and the co-worker who stands by your desk to chat too long each morning. If you can do it for a day, or a season, you can do it every day. Peace, happiness and gratitude to you and yours this Thanksgiving.


Taking in the Big Picture January 18, 2010

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Life is relative, but the need for perspective is undeniable all the same. We are each fully in our own lives, dealing with the pressures, wishes and dreams that affect ourselves, our families and our friends. Sometimes we feel like we are making great strides, moving forward, building a life of enjoyment and meaning. At other times we feel stuck; maybe our job is grind, money is tight, or there are pressing issues at home. Though there is absolutely a matter of degree – we are all relatively self-absorbed. But at times it is important to get a little perspective on life.
Events like last week’s devastating earthquake in Haiti really drive that home. It is almost unfathomable to imagine the situation down there. Watching some 12-year-old boy on the news last week, who had lost his father and who was screaming “why” as an aide-worker attempted to help him with his broken leg – broke my heart. The thought of my 12 year-old son in a similar situation was too painful to imagine. But this boy was someone’s son, and he was only one of thousands who were experiencing similar catastrophes. The pain is palpable even at this distance.
I know this may sound a little like “eat your supper – there are children starving in the world” but really, it’s true isn’t it? We have a lot to be grateful for no matter how difficult things are, there is always someone out there who is having a harder time. The grass may be greener in many cases, but it is browner too. So go ahead – do the best you can do – be gentle with yourself in the process – remember to be grateful for what you do have. Begin with what you do have control over – your self – and work your way out from there.