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Harvesting the Holiday Heart November 27, 2013

TurkeyTomorrow is Thanksgiving, and all across the country families and friends will gather together to enjoy a traditional meal accented with turkey and pie and various other special foods. And at some point likely they will “give thanks”, because in many ways that is what this holiday is all really about. While doing so – likely people will also reflect on those who are not with them this year, and those who are alone on this holiday or are for one reason or another less fortunate to be able to celebrate in the same way. On the news; you hear stories about celebrity athletes bringing pies to local food pantries, church and community collections to gather a variety of items to distribute to those who otherwise would not have a turkey this year. This time of year, when the temperatures drop, and while men and women are deployed overseas in the services, and the general populace is thinking not only about shopping and cooking and decorating – one can predict an up-tick in the expressions of gratitude and generosity. It’s a good thing.

And while I don’t want to throw a damper on what is truly a great expression of our humanity – I can’t help but find myself thinking about where this spirit goes during the rest of the year. After all, those who are in need and alone and the many gifts for which we are grateful on the holidays don’t magically appear on Thanksgiving and disappear on the first day of the New Year.

Back in 2001, after the tragedies of September 11th, for a while, it seemed that people were kinder to one another. There was a sense of a community drawn together in mourning and grief that in the horror of the moment were able to look at one another through a different lens than they had before – a lens of interconnectedness. There was a sense of shared humanity, of gratitude for life itself and of deep caring not just for those in our immediate lives but for the broader community. Is life such that we are only drawn together in this way in moments of great tragedy and of shared tradition?

My wish this holiday season is that we connect with this part of ourselves in a more enduring and constant way, that we appreciate all of the little blessings that we have in our lives and that we look upon one another through our hearts and not just our minds. So do your holiday thing; give thanks, donate, volunteer, remember and cherish – be fully grateful for the breath you draw today. And then tomorrow, when you are back on the highway during rush hour, when you are standing in line at the department store and impatiently rushing to finish your errands – use those eyes to see the elderly person who is driving slowly in front of you, the economically stretched parent who is paying for his child’s clothes with a pile of coupons and the co-worker who stands by your desk to chat too long each morning. If you can do it for a day, or a season, you can do it every day. Peace, happiness and gratitude to you and yours this Thanksgiving.


Sharing the Bounty August 20, 2010

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It’s summertime, and for many folks that means vegetable gardens and an overabundance of cucumbers, zucchini and other fresh veggies and the challenge of what to do with the bounty of their harvest.  Me, I’m not a gardener. Oh I sure enjoy some garden-ripe tomatoes, hot peppers and fresh basil, but my time for attempting to grow these things on my own has passed. But luckily I have a plentiful farm stand in close proximity and the benefit of knowing folks who plant their own, because every year around this time, those folks over-run with canning and pickling begin to donate the excess to non-gardeners like myself. They know I can cook and I appreciate the fresh produce, so in a ritual not unlike that of finding a good home for a litter of kittens they begin sharing the bounty with others.

What brings this to mind actually, is this morning, I regretfully and furtively donated a giant zucchini which I had received last week from my neighbor to the trash can. It was starting to turn and the fruit flies it was creating was starting to get a bit overwhelming, but I do hate to throw away food. It is a bit of a pet peeve of mine, and something I do not do lightly, but that is a different matter altogether. This blog is about sharing. I was thinking that the summer garden ritual is metaphorically not dissimilar to another phenomenon. Here’s what I mean…

What’s the point of letting the fruits of our existence rot on the vine, when there is someone out there that could benefit from that which we ourselves have an over-abundance of? There are so many opportunities out there for “spreading the love” a little, for giving of our own unique talents and abilities to benefit and help others, but some people keep their “light” under a bushel” and do not let it out to shine both for their own personal benefit and for others. It’s a shame, really. In some ways it’s as if, by keeping our talents to ourselves, we are not just missing the opportunity to live life to our fullest potential, but are depriving others of the benefits of what we have to offer as well. You don’t need me to spell it out for you too specifically, I think you can get there on your own, and truthfully who knows better than you what you have to offer?

Just consider it for a moment – each of us has a gift we can share. It may be a little talent, a service, a donation, a skill or a kind word, but it is there somewhere. And if the alternative to giving it away is to keep it quietly hidden; that is as useful as garden full of ripened fruit, rotting in an unattended garden. And when you share what you have, not only do you brighten the life of the beneficiary but of yourself as well. Feed your soul and reap the harvest of life’s possibilities.