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Return of the Prodigal Blogger July 8, 2010

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I don’t want to write another blog about writing a blog – but I’m afraid every time I sit down to start writing that’s what comes to the fore. I guess it just feels funny to me to post an entry after having taken a couple of weeks away from the blogging world without acknowledging that absence. And believe me, not a day passed in between when I didn’t at least think about writing, though on many occasions I had started entries but never finished them. I have given this whole thing a lot of thought and have been trying to figure out what it is I want to and am willing to commit to with regard to the regularity of my postings and I am still undecided.

Ideally I would be posting something every morning (weekday mornings that is, given I decided several months ago that giving myself the weekend off was a good thing.) Though for a while there – posting three entries per week also felt satisfactory. But lately my presence has been more like absence and I for one am not satisfied with that situation. And despite what this may sound like, I am not giving myself a hard time about it. We all have only so much energy and lately with my schedule as it is I have needed to focus it elsewhere. That said – I miss the writing – this forum has provided a great outlet for my musings, I get a lot from it and do not want to let it go altogether. I don’t want it to be an abandoned hobby in my storage room but a regular part of my life.

So as I sit here writing about this issue, here’s what occurs to me regarding how I want to approach this frequency of posting issue. I guess, I have decided that like so many other things, my best approach is a fluid one. Rather than force myself to conform to a rigid schedule, I will simply allow myself to post as frequently as my time and energy allow. Maybe I will get back to daily postings at some point, maybe it will be three times a week or once – and whatever it is will be enough. I know this is something I want to be a regular part of my life but forcing it to become a responsibility and a chore will do nothing to enhance either the pleasure of the experience or the quality of efforts.

If you want to make sure you don’t miss anything – then feel free to subscribe to it – so you will get email updates. If you want to check back in periodically to see if you’ve missed anything then that’s fine, too, that choice is yours. For my part, I am committing to still doing writing these posts for myself and for anyone out there who enjoys reading them. To that end I also commit to the ideal of writing as frequently as I am able – balancing the writing with the other demands for my time and attention.  To some this may sound like a cop-out, to me it is anything but. Every day we each have to consider where and how we will focus our time; balancing our work, families, responsibilities, pleasures and commitments. It never ends. How we choose to find that balance is an individual decision, and allowing ourselves to trust our judgment as to what is best is our responsibility to ourselves and those around us. “So, you all come back now – ya hear…”


Allowing for Flexibility April 19, 2010

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Good Morning Out There… I feel like it has been a while since my last entry (and my last confession), and in actuality it has been longer than usual. These last couple of weeks have been particularly challenging for me with regard to getting these blogs out every day (every, weekday that is.) I believe it is a combination of things all conspiring to make this more difficult than usual; a grueling schedule, a touch of writer’s block and just overall exhaustion. And I don’t know about the rest of you, but I have felt something missing. A few months ago when I started to write these blogs, I began with a seven-day-a-week regimen, which bumped down to five-days-a-week within the first month or so. And with a couple of exceptions I have indeed kept to posting a blog each weekday ever since. That is until these last couple of weeks when I have struggled to post three blogs.

That doesn’t mean I haven’t sat in front of this computer each day and attempted to write something. My “work-in-progress” folder is full of half-written pieces and jotted down ideas, but getting to the finish line has been more complicated than usual lately. So the result is that I am thinking a lot about this “exercise”; what it means to me, why I am doing it and whether or not it even matters to anyone else that my production level has dropped off a bit. (Total aside: Joe Strummer and the Mescaleros, “Johnny Appleseed” is playing on in the background, I haven’t heard this song in a long time, and I do love it.) What I have decided is that despite the fact that I have no real idea about how this is impacting anyone else out there, it is important to me and at least at this point I am not willing to let it evaporate.

It has given me a great amount of satisfaction to just have a forum for writing regularly again; I didn’t realize how much I missed it until I began this blog. It has also made me more conscious of my thought processes through the day. Not that I was not aware of all the ideas I have, but noticing things, thinking about how I would write about them, what points I would want to make, and overall just fleshing them out a bit more than I probably would have has been very gratifying.  I also believe that there is more than a little bit of “pride” involved in sticking with this process for me. And while all this is true – my plate is full right now schedule-wise and I have decided that if I need a little more latitude here I need to take it. I don’t believe it serves anyone to stick to an arbitrary, self-imposed regimen if it is going to have a negative impact on other areas of my life. So what I guess I am trying to say here is this is my plan… I shall endeavor to do the “best that I can” because really what more do I have to offer. I will aim to keep to my schedule of writing a blog for each weekday and if sometimes I miss one (or even two) I am doing it for a reason that makes sense for me in the overall scheme of things. I just felt like I wanted you – whoever you are – to know that.

Having a goal is a worthy thing, and doing your best to get there is all that you can do, but along the way it is important to recognize your limitations and to allow yourself the flexibility to adjust the plan on your way.


The Paths We Take February 25, 2010

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I have an active imagination. When left on its own – my brain is a whirl of activity. It is one of my greatest assets and biggest challenges. I don’t see things from one side only. Instead my mind has a facility for floating around each individual idea and considering the possibilities from all sides. It’s a very busy place in there – and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Nonetheless it poses specific challenges.

When I write one of these blogs for instance, I have to work very hard to contain all the possible tangents that tempt me at every turn. I prefer to write in a “stream of consciousness” fashion, and am often surprised myself at the final results of my meanderings. There has been more than one occasion when I sit down at my laptop – thinking I am going to write about “x” only to find that I have just completed a blog about “y”. For the most part it works for me. I have grown to be flexible and open-minded with the process, thankfully, for if I was not it would surely be a very frustrating experience.

Now this technique probably wouldn’t work for me in all settings, but in this genre it doesn’t seem particularly problematic. Which leads me to the notion of flexibility and forgiveness, is it better to adjust and bend or to stay firmly on a single track? One could say that in order to meet your objectives you need to define a specific path and stay on it in order to reach your goals. Or you could take the stance that the journey itself is a goal worth exploring, it may take you longer to get there but you will learn more on the way. In coaching, one of the primary activities is helping folks to define their goals and to take the necessary steps to achieving them, but it is imperative that you work with what is best for the individual rather than adhering to one particular technique.

Because really – the two approaches are not mutually exclusive anyway. I do believe in setting goals and in defining specific and attainable steps to get you where you want to go. However, sometimes it is necessary to be flexible in your approach – life is not always linear – and giving yourself a hard time about getting your goals completed can be more counterproductive than helpful. As long as you keep the end goal in mind and your efforts continue to pull you in that direction – exactly how you get there is less important. Some people work well with structure and clear and concise limits but allowing yourself the autonomy to create a path that works for you seems like the most useful approach to reaching your goals.