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Happy Giant November 30, 2013

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Meadow and MountainsWell it’s the last day of NaBloPoMo (National Blog Posting Month) and this is my final blog for this year’s participation. It looks like, I have managed to post eighteen out of a possible thirty, and I am feeling pretty good about that. When I first learned about NaBloPoMo on the afternoon of November 1st, I couldn’t help but thinking that this little “incentive” couldn’t have come at a worse time for me. The first couple of weeks of this month, (along with the last several months) of my life had been dominated by my participation in an Expo, the size of which surpassed anything that I had previously been a part of. And while one might wonder what exactly could have been so labor intensive about it, I can tell you that it piled A LOT of extra projects on my plate.

As part of my participation I had set a number of goals for myself, including but not limited to creating a number of new print materials, writing three eBooks, planning and marketing four new coaching groups andwriting a one hour presentation among a number of less intensive tasks. So taking on NaBloPoMo in the last couple of weeks of this push, seemed like a crazy idea that was destined for failure. But at the same time, I think I was in hyper-drive mode and I have thought a lot over the last several months about how I had lost my blog amongst my other writing projects in the last year and that simply was not sitting well. So while, the temptation was to say, “I can’t do it, the timing is just wrong”, I also knew that there are always “valid” reasons why “now isn’t a good time” for so many things that are more; wants than needs, and so, I began.

Participating in this “event” was really important for me.
• For one, I have re-learned what I already know, that if we wait for the path to be clear before we move forward on doing something we want, we can wait forever. I knew this already, and while I resist it in some corners of my life, I had let it take hold where my blog was concerned.
• I also realized that my “blog voice” is different from my other “writing voices”, and after a period of relative disuse it had grown hoarse. It took me longer than usual to find the place of flow from which I was used to writing my blogs in the past. My early efforts this past month felt more like “journal entries” than posts, but the more I kept at it the more it came back into focus.
• I knew already how much I loved to write, but lately my writing had taken a different direction. As a regular contributing expert on divorce for a few online publications, I forgot what it was like to have a more “free-choice” writing opportunity. While my other writing is still gratifying for me, and I look forward to being published in the spring in a compilation book about divorce, I do love just sitting down and writing about whatever it is I want to address as well.
• And lastly, I learned that I can get water from a stone. That there exists inside me, and likely within each of us, that ability to be true to those things that we value and that this connection will not disappoint when we want to tap into it again.

So thank-you to whoever came up with this idea in the first place. I am glad you awakened my sleeping giant. I hope to roam this fertile countryside for a while now, so I expect that you will hear again from me soon as November rolls into December. Thank-you to those of you who have been kind enough to read what I have written, to have liked, commented or followed me during the last month and who have helped to make me feel encouraged along the way. I needed that, and I am grateful for it. Maybe I will bump into you over the next rise as you too, traverse the possibilities. 

 

I Accept! November 1, 2013

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BlogI just learned from my friend and fellow blogger that this is “National Blog Posting Month (NaBloPoMo)”. And since I have been very neglectful of my blog-writing in recent months, I thought, “Okay, I will give it a go.” In many ways, this month really couldn’t be a busier one for me as I have many projects that I am in the midst of, but sometimes a little external pressure even if it is self-imposed can be just the kick in the pants you need to get you going. Besides, I miss blogging, I truly do. There is something about this forum that I find particularly forgiving and pleasing.

Lately, my writing pursuits have taken on different forms. I am still writing articles for a few online publications about divorce – which is great. I also have written a chapter to be included in a collection about divorce. I have been working on planning, outlining, writing and designing several new groups which I am offering. I have written an hour-long presentation about “Exploring Your Life’s Passions” that I will be presenting at a very large health and wellness expo in a couple of weeks. And I have just completed the final of three EBooks which I will be offering on my website shortly. All, very exciting…

Nonetheless, there is something about blogging, the free-form nature of the experience that I have missed while my writing tasks have taken me in these other directions. So, we shall see how this all pans out. Right now, I am trying to squeeze this post in before my evening plans begin and likely that may be how a lot of them work their way into my schedule over the next month – but who knows? I am excited about the possibility of maybe writing in different ways… we shall see.

I accept the NaBloPoMo challenge! Here’s hoping that the fruit it bears tastes sweet!

 

Notes to Self December 29, 2011

As I sat down to write this blog – and searched for the words to begin – one phrase kept coming into mind, “Bless me father for I have sinned, it has been three weeks since my last blog posting.” (Apparently some things stay with a person no matter how long ago they have become obsolete.) But this post is really not about religion, Catholicism or sin – rather it’s about the promises we make to ourselves and what happens when we break them. In a few short days I will hit my two-year anniversary as a blog writer and that makes me feel pretty good. Over the course of two years I have written about 150 posts – or approximately one every five days or so. Not bad really when you look at it that way – though there is part of me that wishes the number was more like one every other day.

When I set-out on this little journey I endeavored to write a blog every day – and I did – for about a month or so. Inspired by the prolific, cleverness of Seth Godin ( http://sethgodin.typepad.com/) – I started out “all fired up and ready to go”. For a while I set my alarm for 5:00 am, as I found that the morning was my best time to write, and even though on some days I wasn’t sure what I would “talk” about – I somehow managed to get something out. And I loved it! Though I would not have described myself as a “writer” I could safely say that I always enjoyed writing and spending some time composing a blog each day was a centering and rewarding experience. But after a month or so – daily entries started to feel like way more than I was willing to commit to. Some days I just didn’t have anything to say – and/or I just couldn’t manage to “get up and at it” as I had been doing. So the writing started to drop off and at some point even had dwindled to one post every couple of months.

And this – did not sit well. Because almost every day – whether I wrote or not – I would think about writing. Sometimes I would jot down ideas, only to never get around to fleshing them out, other days I would plan writing time, only to find that other demands would get in the way. Many times, I would start a post – and then get distracted by something and end up never finishing it. There is a stream of consciousness and immediacy about this for me – which makes finishing a partially written post almost impossible. In fact, I started a post about two and a half weeks ago – which was mostly written, but not finished – and for the last couple of weeks I have revisited it many times – but just haven’t been able to finish and post it – it is still languishing in my drafts folder.

So, where the heck am I going with all this anyway? I guess, I just want to say – that writing this blog is something I am committed to doing. Though delusions of grandeur have me hoping that my words will resonate with and inspire the reader, I know that there are times when likely no one will read these posts besides me. And though I would prefer if they were “spread around” and I was connecting with others through these posts – I know that is only one of the reasons I am writing here. Simply – I need to do this for me, it makes me happy. Would I prefer to have the consistent proliferation of a daily blog – “yeah, maybe”. Would I at the very least like to post every couple of days – ” I would”. Will I continue to write here and there even if weeks and months occasionally separate the postings – “yep”. Because when I think about it – the promise I make to myself here – is to keep writing – it isn’t about the frequency and volumeof posts, or even about the number of people who read it – it is about the experience and doing something I love.

Sure I could choose to “beat myself up” for not writing more frequently – but I seriously doubt that it would have any positive effect. Rather I shall choose to celebrate my two-year blogging birthday and my commitment to continuing to do this thing that I find so rewarding. And I hope that others will read these words, share them with others, and most of all walk away wuth the message – to be gentle with yourself and support yourself in that which makes you feel good. It is not “lowering the bar” it is “opening the door”. Come out, come out wherever you are…

 

Baby Steps, Benchmarks and Blogs January 7, 2010

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Today marks the conclusion of my first week’s worth of blog posting – and it has been a really interesting experience for me. I thought I’d take a moment to reflect a bit on what this experience has been like for me and share some of what has come up for me in the process.

  • I have always loved to write, but over the years I seem to have gotten to a point where I was doing less and less of it. Writing this blog has become an excellent outlet for this long-ignored passion of mine and I am very happy to have it back.
  • As I mentioned in my post a couple of days ago, “Never Underestimate The Kindness Of Friends… Or Strangers For That Matter”, the outpouring of encouragement, support, congratulations and kudos from many of the folks in my life has been incredibly gratifying and heartwarming.
  • I am finding myself constantly noticing things throughout my day and considering them as possible blog topics. Initially I was concerned that writing a daily blog would exhaust ideas for topics relatively quickly. But quite to the contrary, the more I write the more topics come to mind. It has me thinking in a new way and I love that!
  • I am looking forward to mastering all the bells and whistles of the site itself, so that I can enhance the site and tweak it as I see fit over time.
  • Knowing that I have a blog entry to write has been an exciting element to look forward to in my day. Though the parameters around this experience are totally self-imposed  – I have made a commitment to myself that this is going to be a daily event, and though I feared it may feel like one more item I “have to do” in an already crowded schedule, it is truly a bright spot and a pleasure.

I am looking forward to the evolution and future of this blog and find myself considering all the myriad of possibilities for directions it could take. I hope you stop by often, comment if you are inspired, pass it along to friends who you think may enjoy my musings and even subscribe to the site for regular updates. One week down, many more to go… Yay!!!!!