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A Light in the Darkness July 28, 2011

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Thursday morning, the start of a new work day, at least for some of us, because after all in this time of economic nightmares a lot of good, hard-working folks don’t have a job to wake up to no matter what day of the week it is. And while some folks are able to rise and shine – shower and shave, coffee and breakfast and migrate to their workspace with a spring in their step, many others are dragging themselves from their slumber and laboring through their morning rituals to begin the day. These are tough times whether you are employed or not – budgets are tight, prospects are dim and spirits are broken. For many who are lucky enough to have a job, there looms a sense of being trapped in a place that isn’t working for them. There’s a lot of fear out there, fear of losing what little stability you have – and risking letting go of the devil you know.

Some people I know actually love their jobs. Whether working for themselves or for someone else  – they are happy to be where they are. Others are un-employed, and their job is looking for a job – a tedious, exhausting and financially draining experience, particularly now. And a third group are unhappily employed – showing up each day to jobs that they hate – but too afraid and too risk-adverse to look for something different. “You’re lucky to have work” – is the overarching sentiment in this world. To which the answer is “yeah, but…”.

Most of us, spend most of our time at our jobs, the majority of our hours each week spent plying our trade and trying to collect the needed funds to live the rest of our lives. What a shame it is – that so many people would rather be somewhere else. So many hours, days, weeks, months and years spent doing something, being somewhere that you really don’t want to be. And if that were it – the extent of the negative spin on time spent in “the wrong job” – that would be bad enough – but the reality is that all those hours spent being un-satisfied, under-stimulated, under-valued and just unhappy put a drain on the rest of our lives.

So, what do you do? I suppose the best possible option has a two-fold component to it. For one, for now, you keep showing-up and try your hardest to make the best of the work you do have. Take pride in yourself for doing what you have to do – to keep things moving along – even if the situation is less than ideal. But at the same time – try to find something else that is a better fit. Yes, opportunity isn’t exactly glutting the market at the moment – but you have to do what you can to improve your situation. Find the moments that are available to you to explore new positions or create your own. Your life is too precious, and your time too valuable to deny yourself a sense of happiness and satisfaction. Start small, don’t push yourself to a state of exhaustion – but keep the light burning ’cause somewhere out there a better circumstance is waiting for what you can bring to it.

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Meeting “The Man” July 20, 2011

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My son just left to get his hair cut. It’s a big deal for him, not exactly as big a deal as it was for Samson – but close enough for this non-biblical tale. For the last year or so – with varying degrees of enthusiasm – he has been trying to get a part-time job in this relatively small town. There isn’t much out there and until a month or so ago his prospects were looking pretty bleak. But it seemed that he had finally landed something at a local pizza chain and went in last week as planned to fill out the required paperwork – only to be told, “Come back next week and in the meantime – get your hair cut.” And so, reluctantly he trod off to hair salon with old photo of a younger, shorter “tressed” version of himself in hand as a guide.

My son – “has my hair”. Not literally of course I have plenty of my own – but genetically he seems to have gotten the thick, curly locks of his Italian-American mother, and though it is not as long as it was a year ago, he doesn’t wear it short. And it suits him. He is a good kid, who likes to think of himself as a free-thinking, non-conformist – and his hair was such a notable characteristic in his overall look – that there is probably not another physical change in his appearance that would have as big an impact. So cutting his hair is really not something he wants to do – and yet he is accepting it as a necessary trade-off in getting a job, which clearly he wanted and needed even more. It’s one of those “life lessons” he likely will not forget.

In order to make our way out in the “real world” there will be a lot of compromises along the way. Sometimes we choose to go along with what is asked of us, and sometimes we do not. The trick is knowing who you are, what is important to you and what you are willing to give up or not. Learning to negotiate the compromise is something that we need to master on some level as we face the responsibilities of living life in this world. I will miss my son’s longish locks, but I am proud of the young man who made the decision to get them cut in order to move forward. He can grow his hair again one day if that’s what he wants to do – and the growth he will get from this experience is just one step out into the big world that will require a lot more from him some day.

 

Breakfast is Served July 9, 2011

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Time has gotten away from me, and along with it – writing blog entries. What began as a daily practice has faded into almost complete non-existence. Too many demands for my attention have effectively obliterated my hopes for making blog writing a regular and consistent part of my daily routine. At this point, I would be happy to write one a week – and I am quite unsure if this little musing will actually attain “post” status, but maybe…

Writing makes me happy, and I miss it. A year ago, starting my day with a cup of coffee and the keyboard started my day with a sense of personal accomplishment and purpose, whether the writings themselves held any great insight or not – there was a peacefulness that came with both the experience of writing and the knowledge that I had done it.  A relatively simple exercise that fed my mind and soul. How is it that something that can feel so good – can slip off the boards and into non-existence? In many ways I have more time in my life now than I did then, so what’s stopping me?

There are a lot of things like that in life, aren’t there? A lot of little self-nurturing activities that somehow lose their status in the priority of our daily lives and drop away. Maybe it’s time to work them back  in. Afterall, we have this one shot at this life business, if we spend our time filling our moments with things we “have to do” and meaningless time-munching nothing – then we are missing out on simple opportunities for enhancement that feeds rather than drains us. I prefer a hearty breakfast and today is as good a day as any to take a moment to serve one up. What’s on your plate?